Why The Male Chastity Lifestyle Won't Always Make Your Lover a Slave
June 16th, 2010 | 
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One of the first things you hear about male chastity is a chastity husband is the same as a chastity slave, and this is simply not true.
But, unfortunately, men and particularly women who are seeking impartial, accurate and sensible advice about male chastity more often than not are bombarded with inaccurate and largely invented tales of enslavement and orgasm denial which simply do not stand up to critical scrutiny.
Now, you might say there’s no harm in people posting their fantasies on forums and blogs, since they have the right to free speech and there’s no harm being done.
This is true. Yet, the same freedom of speech means I and other women and men who actually live the male chastity lifestyle are entitled to point out the inconsistencies and obvious inaccuracies in what passes for “advice” on this subject.
See, not every chastity husband wants to submit to his wife as a chastity slave.
Many men, like my husband, John, wish to cede control only in this one narrow part of their lives: that is, they wish only to give their wives control of their orgasms. It categorically does not necessarily mean they want to be feminised, cuckolded, abused or generally treated as a second-class citizen.
Why is this so important?
Because in the main, men are the ones driving a male chastity lifestyle, certainly in the beginning, and frequently the first thing their wife discovers about the subject is the hype and nonsense which makes male chastity equivalent to male slavery. And it simply isn’t.
In my experience having a chastity husband is a delicious and beautiful addition to our lives, a fun and exciting kinky sex-game played out over a period of days, weeks, months, and ultimately years.
The chastity slave, though, gives over control in a larger number of situations. Depending on the level of “slavery” you’ve both agreed on, this can be as simple as bedroom play to a whole lifestyle thing where he does as he’s told all the time or woe betide him.
I personally wouldn’t want that and, so far as I can tell in my research, nor do most of the women being introduced to the male chastity lifestyle by their boyfriends.
On the other side of the coin, most women don’t find submissive men attractive. Some do. Most don’t.
And some women revel in dominance and “power” but, again, most of us don’t. This doesn’t mean we don’t delight in our feminine power – I’m not saying a thrill doesn’t rush through most of us at the thought our sensuality can take a man’s breath away.
But that’s a long, long way from being a “dominant female”.
The crucial difference is a chastity husband wants to surrender to his desire whereas a chastity slave wants to surrender his will.
The former is likely going to be attractive to most women because it doesn’t mean if she embraces the male chastity lifestyle her man has to become a doormat.
He can, like my husband, remain strong, manly, confident and sexy yet still have that small vulnerability exactly where you want it – his desire for you as a woman.
So, if you’re a woman whose man has revealed to her his desire to embrace the male chastity lifestyle and become your chastity husband, don’t be put off by the forums and hype which have you convinced he wants to become your chastity slave.
So often that’s not so, that’s not the way it has to work, and for most couples both of them will be more content for it not to be
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